This is one of the greatest secrets to finding and keeping a great life partner. It not only boils down to what you do, but how you think. Here’s what happened.

Some time ago, in my 30′s I spent nearly a couple of years single. I used to wake up in the early morning, leave my expensive home, get into my sports car and drive to my flourishing engineering business.

After work, I went to the health club on my way home, worked out, played squash etc. Often women looked my way and were friendly towards me. Yet I by no means dated for months on end.

What’s wrong with this picture? I had left a painful relationship, where I had been invalidated by my partner every day. So I believed, that no-one could ever love me again, mainly because I was not worth it. This belief came true within my life.

I just didn’t think that there was a person out there, interested in me. This naturally made it right. Was it for the reason that I was unattractive? Hardly, I had an excellent build, clear skin, was healthy and fit, and even though I didn’t resemble Richard Gere, I definitely wasn’t ugly.

Was it mainly because I was financially insecure? No, I owned a good business, drove an expensive car and lived in a big home with a view. So there was nothing physically, causing my problem. It was all in my mind.

Hey, it gets worse. After some counseling and reading lots of books, I actually got to go and take some action to meet some new individuals. Then when I did find someone, guess how that worked out.

The thing is, deep down, I still had that limiting mind-set that I was really fortunate to get anybody at all that wanted to be with me. People sensed it like sharks smelling blood in the water. Describing it as that, I started dating a predator, would’ve been an understatement.

The individual I attracted was a gold digger, having no shame about sleeping with whomever she felt like. Was it her fault, yes. But it was more my fault. I realized that I allowed it to happen in my mind first. I believed that this was the best I could achieve and had to simply accept that behavior to actually have any person in my life at all.

Eventually the boundaries of even my twisted logic fell apart, when she came back after being with another man, drunk and attempted to stab me using a kitchen knife.

How could I permit it to get that far? Easy, I didn’t realize that I had options. When I realized that even being alone again was better than my present scenario, I did get out of that relationship. Cutting a long story short, the whole problem was me having the wrong belief system.

It took a while. Eventually, I accepted that I was actually okay, and a lot of ladies could do worse than to be in a relationship with me. I also understood that there were actually several thousands of potential partners for me.

When I started believing this, it was like some flood gates had opened. I kept on running into prospective partners at each and every turn, and I was off the singles scene rather quickly.

All I did differently was that I had now accepted that there’s actually a complete abundance in our universe. I accepted an abundance of suitable people. It was my selection, to accept or reject this truth. That made the distinction. Now my physical actions could steer me to my true desires.

My exterior surroundings had not changed much. Physically I was the exact same (except getting a little older, and not much wiser), but my well being had turned 180 degrees mainly because I allowed it to. I let my mind believe that anything is possible, and absolutely nothing could stand in the way of a solid enough belief.

But, only extreme pain brought about this realization. You can avoid the pain. Recognize the above, you have got several options now. They’ll let you do things in much more positive ways.

Understand that life will wind up teaching you either way.

Don’t fight it, accept it. Heal in a healthy way by seeking advice whenever you want it. You will discover countless sites to help you. An awesome resource for you would be: love systems, lovesystems, lovesytem com.

Let it be a pleasant experience rather than painful lesson. Envision it, believe it, and see what happens.